A God-Centered Marriage: The Closer We Get to Him, the Closer We Become
- meetgodattheedgeof
- Aug 17
- 3 min read
Ecclesiastes 4:9-11
[9] Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. [10] If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. [11] Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone?
I woke up thinking about my marriage, so I felt led to share my thoughts.
Marriage can be an amazing blessing, but not all of the time, right? Some days, we men can feel darn near like Superman (in our own minds), and we easily handle a bunch of tasks around the house. In our wife's mind, she had a completely different list of importance, and now we just look like a ding-dong to her. In that moment, both of you get discouraged or frustrated, and it can downright suck the life out of you. It can feel like both of you are on two different planets, and it's impossible to meet in the middle and work together.
Where does this come from? Why do men feel so strongly about the things we think are important, and why do women feel so strongly about theirs? From a therapist's perspective, I can only imagine that the list of reasons is endless. From our perspective as followers of God, it boils down to the enemy driving a wedge between us because he is afraid of what we could do if we united and worked together. A God-centered marriage can be powerful because instead of pulling in two different directions, we are both seeking Him.
Being married by the world's standards is all about satisfying what we think we need, and the moment we realize that beautiful woman can't do that, the word "divorce" starts flying around.
We all know by now that what the Word of God teaches is completely opposite of what the world says. Seeking God is the only source of fulfillment, and no human can ever replace that. Trying to get fulfillment from a person you love will always lead to disappointment.
Sacrifice is the greatest way to show love, and we see that in the way our Heavenly Father loves us. How do you sacrifice in your relationship? Be honest with yourself.
To be a good husband, I need to lead my wife into a deeper relationship with God by focusing on what I need to improve first. Turning the pointed finger around and fixing ourselves first is biblical and, as it turns out, motivates others to change more than pointing out their faults ever could.
God wants our relationships to be two joined into one, constantly seeking a deeper relationship with Him and seeking His direction in all things we encounter. That's what a God-centered marriage should look like.
I love the pyramid analogy. Imagine you on one side of the pyramid and your wife on the other. The closer you both climb to God at the top, the closer you two become.
This week, my wife and I celebrate our 15-year anniversary! Praise God.
Thank you, Father, for one more day. Amen
Ephesians 5:25-28
[25] For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her [26] to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. [27] He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. [28] In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself.
